4.20.2011

Finding the time

As I read mommy blogs and devotionals, I am finding that most of them tell you to make the most of the time you have.  For example, leave the dishes until after kids are asleep, fold the laundry later, facebook can wait.  There are things that distract us in life, some more important than others, but if you can save it until later-do it!  After last night I was thinking that putting off stuff doesn't just work with kids, but your spouse should also be a priority in the time you have.

My prayers and cuddles commitment has not been so perfect, why? Because of life.  Ryan has a new job in Chandler, which gives him longer days adding almost an hour drive both ways.  With a new job comes a new home, so I have been packing and organizing and following tips from the blog IHeart Organizing: April Challenge: Project "Purge".  Oh and we have a 6 month old. . . So that means when dad gets home last night he is tired, I have to run out with our one vehicle for an errand, we have to eat, watch Glee while Ryan does work, pick out paint samples for the house, fold the laundry, dream-feed the baby and then head to bed.  Our 9:00 bedtime turns into 10:00.  Instead of enjoying our time in bed, praying, talking about the day and etc., we go to sleep.

Unfortunately I think that most couples are busy, and there are probably people who have much more on their plates than us, or even might have opposite schedules.  Is that why the divorce rate is so high?  I think if my nights always looked that way (luckily they don't), I'm not sure how the communication and affection would look in my marriage. 

Find the TIME, is what I was telling myself this morning.  I believe that the time that Ryan and I spend together, and not just in front of the tv, is important for our relationship and for our family.  During these past few weeks I've even noticed that I don't sweat the small stuff as much.  Like when Ryan spills coffee right before he has to leave, I clean it up. . .or his shaved hair on the bathroom counter that I asked him to shave over a towel and it still ends up on the sink and he doesn't wipe it off...yeah I don't bring that up either;)  When I feel intimate with and loved by my husband, I want to be an awesome wife.  So instead of heading to bed annoyed that time was lost, I'm going to make time for the special moments I can share with him.  My brother works out of town during the week and is only home with his family on the weekends, it always reminds me to count my blessings.  Even though life is crazy busy sometimes, I have a husband who is in bed every night with me.

I love these verses below because at first your like "Uggh, of course they are telling wives to submit to the husbands first", but when you read below you realize the husbands have a huge job as well.

"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body."
                                                                                             -1 Corinthians 5:22-30

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